It’s been awhile since I posted anything here. Why? Because I lost interest. There seemed to be far too many other things that were more important than stringing together a few words to post online. But, I want to talk about loss. I feel there are many who are struggling with this very topic and maybe reading these few words will help them get through another day, week or month.

As many of you know my wife and I moved to Montréal three years ago and in doing so, have experienced a level of loss we never anticipated.

After setting the move date, we sold most of what we owned. Loss #1. We then sold our dream house that we thought we’d live in for the rest of our lives. Loss #2. One of our horses suddenly and unexpectedly died. Loss #3. We had to put down another horse and cat because they would not have survived the trip. Loss #4 and #5. Within months of arriving in Montréal, the horse we brought with us became sick and within weeks, died. Loss #6.

We started to find a groove and decided to sell my mother-in-laws house to ensure we had enough money to pay for her care. Loss #7. During the sale process one of our cats was diagnosed with cancer and died shortly after. Loss #8.

We moved and started to find a groove again. Out of the blue, my mother-in-law became ill and passed within weeks. Huge loss #9. We started to find a groove again. Then COVID hit. Loss #10. Then another cat passes and within weeks of its passing another one passes. Loss #11 and #12.

I’m not telling you this for your sympathy. I’m trying to give some perspective. Maybe the perspective you need to deal with what is making you hurt. Maybe sharing this will let you see that you’re not alone. Maybe sharing this will let you see that what is making you hurt is not so bad. Maybe sharing this will let you see that you’re level of hurt may be greater than mine, but I assure you, you’ll make it through the ache.

Maybe sharing this, will let you see. See what you have, not what you’ve lost.

Let's Talk About Loss